“We know that we all have knowledge. Knowledge puffs up, but love builds up. The one who thinks he knows something does not yet know as he ought to know. But the one who loves God is known by God.” (1 Corinthians 8:1-3)
Have you ever been in an argument with a close friend, family member or acquaintance where you fought your hardest to get your point across to the other individual because you felt strongly in your heart that you were right and they were wrong? Do you remember getting so passionate and furious on the inside because you seemed to be failing in winning over your opponent to accept your point of view during the argument or debate? Finally, you’ve got them to quiet down and accept your viewpoint however the sweet victory didn’t seem so sweet after all because your opponent was left feeling defeated, hurt, or less than. Well, this is because your strong opinion was meant to be an opinion and not as a weapon for crushing your neighbor’s confidence or joy just because their viewpoint seemed different from yours.
People develop perceptions and viewpoints based on their own philosophies, understanding and levels of processing. Everyone does not think like you and therefore may process things differently.
Love says….Let it go
As Christians it is important that we always walk in love and humility; even if this means letting another win over an argument when our viewpoint seems most accurate or correct in our own perspective. Everyone goes through a different process of development and growth. However, don’t allow your knowledge of something to cause another believer who’s weaker than you to stumble. 1 Corinthians 8:9 says, “Be careful, however, that the exercise of your rights does not become a stumbling block to the weak”.
Correcting in love and not for revenge…
Love is not passive or spiteful but it is humble and kind. Love corrects but does not bashes or crushes another’s confidence. God corrects us in love when we do wrong; however His correction is from a place of love as a father would correct a child. Proverbs 3:12 says “For whom the LORD loveth he correcteth; even as a father the son in whom he delighteth”. There is a way to correct your neighbor in love when they are walking in the wrong way; but always be careful that your underlying motives or intentions are of love and not to hurt the individual’s feelings or to point out their wrongs for your personal gain or pleasure. Love seeks to find the value in another even when they are weaker in the faith. Love is selfless and places the needs of others first.
Always seek the advice of Holy Spirit on how you should move forward in bringing correction to your neighbor when necessary in a loving way. Holy Spirit will always lead and guide you into all truth. Also, pray for that individual that God opens their eyes to His truth rather than taking it into your own hands and attempting to persuade the individual to believe your viewpoint in your own strength. Leave it in God’s hands. God is the giver of wisdom, knowledge and understanding (Proverbs 2:6). In every circumstance we must strive to be peacemakers; “Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called children of God.” (Matthew 5:9)
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” (1 Corinthians 13:4-7)
Blog Post written by: Andrika Moss